Recently I decided to look up some thought provoking questions to form a sort of list to draw from when I end up in a round of 5 questions. I always try to go for questions that can tell me something about the person (If you have 3 wishes, are they all selfish? Selfless? A mixture?). But this always seems to happen around midnight when I’m too tired to think about anything interesting. On my quest for questions I stumbled across 5 that I found myself starting to answer. So I thought I’d share.
1. If you were to die at midnight, what would you be doing?
This one grabbed my attention because I didn’t even have to think. My automatic response was to call people I cared about and let them know that 1. I love them and 2. why I love them. Tell them what they’ve done for me. I feel like more often than not people focus on all the mistakes they’ve made, and it’s because whenever it happens people seem to point out what you’ve done. I feel it’s really important that if someone has positively impacted your life, you tell them. I try to do this as much as I can, but I would definitely spend the last few minutes making sure certain people are called. I know it’s not a super crazy fun way to spend my final moments, but it is what would make me happiest.
2. What can you do today that you were not capable of a year ago?
This one really got me, because recently (and I mean within the past month or so) I realized I finally love myself. And that took a long time. So that is my answer. This means I can now accept mistakes when I make them, and not constantly brood over them and remain angry with myself. (Instead it’s now more, well, I fucked up. It happens, I’ll accept the consequence and move on). I can accept who I am, the good and the bad. A year ago I couldn’t move on from mistakes, I’d hate myself for everything I did wrong. I’ve finally learned to let go.
3. Who do you trust and why?
I don’t really feel like posting the who. But there is one person I trust more than anyone else. And it’s because they’ve proven themselves trustworthy during times I couldn’t have expected it. We’ve had our differences, but this person could pretty well write my biography with everything they know about me. Despite this, even when we weren’t on good terms, they’ve never revealed what I’ve trusted them with. It’s not the person I’m closest to. I trust this person because I know I can. And it goes beyond trusting them not to tell other people. I think a huge part of trust is being able to somewhat guess how someone will react to what you tell them. Will they judge you? How will they react? And for the most part they understand, and I know things aren’t judged and I can always expect a calm, supportive reaction. People seem to think your best friend should be the person you trust most. For me it’s the person who has proven themselves trustworthy time after time.
4. WHen does silence convey more meaning than words?
I found this interesting. Immediately Taylor Swift’s lyric “I’ve never heard silence quite this loud” comes to mind (I used to be a huge Taylor fan, don’t judge). There are a few times when silence is more powerful than words. I think one of the most powerful times is when the silence is in someone’s absence. If someone is no longer part of your life, I believe silence is the strongest way for them to prove they truly no longer care. In fact no matter how many times the person says they don’t care, I believe it can only truthfully be conveyed in silence. Because realistically if you still have something to say, part of you still cares. Even if that part of you is an angry part. It is also one of the best ways to convey emotion. Silent anger tends to be more powerful than anything you can yell. It’s also what worries me most if someone is upset. I’m sure most people are used to how much their closest friends reveal about their problems. I have friends that share their woes with half the world, and friends that won’t say anything until you’ve pushed for a little while; to be sure you aren’t just asking if they’re okay out of obligation. Regardless, I know how much they’ll open up. And when someone is obviously upset and doesn’t say a thing, I know it’s bad. Finally I think silence reveals a certain understanding. There are times when we are at a loss for words. At those times, the correct facial expressions are perhaps all that is needed. If you can’t find the correct words, perhaps none are needed.
5. What kind of people do you hate the most?
Ignorant people. Ignorance is probably the quality I despise most. I’m talking about the people who picket against causes that support human rights (same sex marriage, for example). Or people who make comments like “why can’t you just get over it?” when it comes to mental illness, or believe one truly CHOOSES their sexuality. Also people who choose to turn a blind eye to problems because it’s easier not to deal with them. Yes, ignorance is bliss and the world seems great when you avoid eye contact with the homeless and turn off the tv every time Sarah McLachlan starts asking you to support the WSPCA. Some of these examples are a little extreme though. I think a more general summary would be that if you can’t even ATTEMPT to see someone else’s perspective on things, and the only world that exists to you is the one you see through your own eyes, we won’t get along.